Joe Paprocki takes his third question in 7 Keys to Spiritual Wellness from the TV quiz show, Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?
Is that your final answer?
…In other words, “Have you thoroughly thought through your options and the consequences?”…
We admire people who shoot first and ask questions later because they seem to embody the quality that we wish we possessed: certainty. We would all like to stand on solid ground in a world that is black and white. That’s why religious fundamentalism is so attractive to many spiritual seekers; it offers a false sense of certainty. Instead we have to learn to be comfortable with ambiguity and doubt.
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve spoken and acted without thoroughly thinking through my options, I’d be a richer and happier individual. I don’t know about you, but there are moments when my blood boils and, darn it, I just have to confront someone right then. It is usually something I come to regret in a short space of time.
I have learned when I’m hot and bothered not to send anything I write until it has sat upon my desk for 24 hours. I have never looked at something a day later and said, “Oh, that sounds perfectly reasonable and rational.” My certainty evaporates like the dew fall [Sorry, couldn’t resist it!] and I’m left uncomfortably with my doubts and ambiguities.
Are you the sort of person who always thinks through to the “final answer”?